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2/22/2012 7:33 am Last Read: |
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2/22/2012 9:31 am |
? I am confused. Love is tricky, Toothy. You know that.
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 2/22/2012 9:38 am |
because we love them and it gives us the freedom to be us not thinking that we may actually by our actions hurt them. We tend to think of them as being invincible..... sorry hun   May you purr contently and always feel at home with yourself
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2/22/2012 10:01 am |
I think it is because love makes us increasingly vulnerable. We can still be hurt even without love, but not in the same way. AS SEXY AS LUNCHMEAT... Come and visit The Queen's Blog where I will entertain you with more of my grandiose delusions.
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2/22/2012 10:10 am |
And I'm sorry.  AS SEXY AS LUNCHMEAT... Come and visit The Queen's Blog where I will entertain you with more of my grandiose delusions.
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2/22/2012 10:23 am |
You seem to be hurting - sorry man! Everyone has said what I would say, so all I can say is... here is a huge hug for you! Want to know more about me (and my antics)? Read my blog. Curiosities of a country girl
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2/22/2012 1:23 pm |
Sometimes it is inevitable. Sometimes it is them hurting not us hurting them because of a certain way we act or react towards them and they expect a different behaviour from us. Sometimes it takes two for the pain to be. Sometimes we just have to bite down on our lip and take the pain we too feel when we hurt them. Sometimes.... Hugs
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 2/22/2012 2:16 pm |
Because when we love we lower our defences and become oh so vulnerable. Hugs my friend. 
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2/22/2012 2:17 pm |
When we love someone it brings with it a level of intimacy that is often taken for granted, I think this is the emotional space in which we unintentionally can hurt the one we love. I hope your hurt resolves quickly by talking about it. *hugs* ~ Some people drink from the fountain of knowledge, others just gargle and spit. ~
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2/22/2012 4:34 pm |
Sometimes because they are the safest to lash out at, sometimes because they have hurt us and we want to hurt them back. Sometimes because we do something that we know perhap we shouldn't because if they found out we know what it would do to them, and we do the thing anyway and it IS found out, and the other person is so hurt. You can't love someone and never disappoint or hurt them...it's impossible. It is the size of the hurts and whether or not they can be overcome that is the issue. A child can devastate a parent by saying "I don't love you" and whether it is true or not doesn't really matter - the pain is there. A spouse can hurt another simply by NOT saying things, like "I love you", "You look beautiful/handsome today", "Thank you for being in my life". Sigh...you CAN only hurt people who care cuz if they don't care it won't hurt them...no issue.  Born Free!!! NOW I'm expensive
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2/23/2012 5:37 am |
When you figure this one out, let me know... I am in a "new relationship" with an old friend and we've talked about how badly one can be hurt, how hearts can be broken by those we love the most. The only thing either one of us can promise the other, and we have done just that, is that we will never intentionally hurt the other. But we both know that sooner or later, he will hurt me and I will hurt him just in the course of life happening. The big thing is what are we gonna do about it...
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2/23/2012 5:37 am |
Simply because we are afraid of what we feel for them. We know what happens when we let our guard down and become vulnerable. We know what it means, so we hurt. Sorry for your pain, trust time. You will go on. big Come. Sit.
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2/23/2012 6:59 am |
The reasons we hurt the ones we love the most, is because whether intentional or not, with loving someone comes the risk of hurt. A million small hurts can add up to a big one. I do believe though that if the love is strong enough, it will overcome all the little hurts and even the big ones. The ones we love the most, always have the power to hurt us the most. This is how it is, if you didn't care, then you wouldn't be hurt as much.
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2/23/2012 7:00 am |
? I am confused. Love is tricky, Toothy. You know that.
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2/23/2012 7:01 am |
because we love them and it gives us the freedom to be us not thinking that we may actually by our actions hurt them. We tend to think of them as being invincible..... sorry hun
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2/23/2012 7:03 am |
I think it is because love makes us increasingly vulnerable. We can still be hurt even without love, but not in the same way.
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2/23/2012 7:04 am |
And I'm sorry.
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2/23/2012 7:05 am |
You seem to be hurting - sorry man! Everyone has said what I would say, so all I can say is... here is a huge hug for you!
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2/23/2012 7:08 am |
When we open our heart to someone it can lead to many wonderful things, but with that it can lead us to such pains like never before. I think we hurt the ones that love us because we feel safe with them, that they will forgive us. No matter what any of us say right now, it will not take away your pain. FOr that I am truly sorry my dear friend. Sending you warm big hugs from Joisey.
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2/23/2012 7:12 am |
Sometimes it is inevitable. Sometimes it is them hurting not us hurting them because of a certain way we act or react towards them and they expect a different behaviour from us. Sometimes it takes two for the pain to be. Sometimes we just have to bite down on our lip and take the pain we too feel when we hurt them. Sometimes.... Hugs
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2/23/2012 7:13 am |
Because when we love we lower our defences and become oh so vulnerable. Hugs my friend.
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2/23/2012 7:14 am |
When we love someone it brings with it a level of intimacy that is often taken for granted, I think this is the emotional space in which we unintentionally can hurt the one we love. I hope your hurt resolves quickly by talking about it. *hugs*
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2/23/2012 7:16 am |
Sometimes because they are the safest to lash out at, sometimes because they have hurt us and we want to hurt them back. Sometimes because we do something that we know perhap we shouldn't because if they found out we know what it would do to them, and we do the thing anyway and it IS found out, and the other person is so hurt. You can't love someone and never disappoint or hurt them...it's impossible. It is the size of the hurts and whether or not they can be overcome that is the issue. A child can devastate a parent by saying "I don't love you" and whether it is true or not doesn't really matter - the pain is there. A spouse can hurt another simply by NOT saying things, like "I love you", "You look beautiful/handsome today", "Thank you for being in my life". Sigh...you CAN only hurt people who care cuz if they don't care it won't hurt them...no issue.
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2/23/2012 7:17 am |
When you figure this one out, let me know... I am in a "new relationship" with an old friend and we've talked about how badly one can be hurt, how hearts can be broken by those we love the most. The only thing either one of us can promise the other, and we have done just that, is that we will never intentionally hurt the other. But we both know that sooner or later, he will hurt me and I will hurt him just in the course of life happening. The big thing is what are we gonna do about it...
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2/23/2012 7:19 am |
Simply because we are afraid of what we feel for them. We know what happens when we let our guard down and become vulnerable. We know what it means, so we hurt. Sorry for your pain, trust time. You will go on. big
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2/23/2012 10:21 am |
Because we can. Our dark side takes a bit of pleasure in it as well. As You Wish 
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2/23/2012 11:54 am |
Want to know more about me (and my antics)? Read my blog. Curiosities of a country girl
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2/23/2012 11:59 am |
We feel safe with the ones we love, hun, so when we are low, and down, we lash out only where it is safe to show our honest face. Oh yes, we think we are always ourselves and we sure try, but we do have an exterior for others and an interior for the ones we love. There is something to be said, for better or worse, because really ... we will be worse, we can't help it ... we are honest about who we are only with them. Don't be angry with yourself, it means you are human ... YES, EVEN YOU, my beautiful friend! Dutch Pie and kisses
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2/23/2012 12:10 pm |
I don't fucking understand it either, but it's too often the way *sigh* Hugs to you... as much as you've said you no longer need them, I think I'd like getting my hands on you  (thx for the excuse  )"I reject your version of reality & substitute my own"  Have you ever tried Sloggin' it? Blogger Slogger The best of some of the Canucks I love: CanadaWeek
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2/23/2012 5:08 pm |
Depending on the circumstances, the answer may be...because we can. The Healing Circle...
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2/24/2012 12:24 am |
I'm sorry, sweetie. It never feels good no matter who causes the pain. Don't waste your time on a man who is isn't willing to waste his time on you.             There's A Beach Somewhere With My Name On It
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2/24/2012 1:52 am |
Because we can. Our dark side takes a bit of pleasure in it as well.
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2/24/2012 1:53 am |
Anytime! Always!!
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2/24/2012 1:54 am |
We feel safe with the ones we love, hun, so when we are low, and down, we lash out only where it is safe to show our honest face. Oh yes, we think we are always ourselves and we sure try, but we do have an exterior for others and an interior for the ones we love. There is something to be said, for better or worse, because really ... we will be worse, we can't help it ... we are honest about who we are only with them. Don't be angry with yourself, it means you are human ... YES, EVEN YOU, my beautiful friend!
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2/24/2012 1:56 am |
I don't fucking understand it either, but it's too often the way *sigh* Hugs to you... as much as you've said you no longer need them, I think I'd like getting my hands on you (thx for the excuse )
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2/24/2012 1:58 am |
Depending on the circumstances, the answer may be...because we can.
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2/24/2012 1:58 am |
I'm sorry, sweetie. It never feels good no matter who causes the pain.
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2/24/2012 8:05 am |
Love is tricky, Toothy. You know that. Well, you said say it again... Oh cheer up, Toothy! Before I slap you. (I don't give out hugs.)
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2/25/2012 9:11 am |
When it does, it hurts me more than it hurts them. 
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2/25/2012 3:47 pm |
Unfortunately that's the way life goes.
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2/26/2012 10:16 am |
I don't know. But if you want me to kick anyone's butt, I will  Having someone on your side to kick butt always feels nice doesn't it? Come visit my blog Sex and the Single Slut. I'm bursting with fruit flavor and leopard print pajama pants.
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3/1/2012 4:38 am |
"There is more room in a broken heart." It was interesting when reading this how, I took it as "self" vs others.
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3/1/2012 6:14 am |
I hope you are ok. I don't know the answer to that question, but I know exactly what you mean and it has never made sense to me either. Yo Ho and a Bottle of Yum
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3/1/2012 4:08 pm |
Firstly, human nature leads us all to make mistakes... We are not infallible! You have to admit to that! There will always be more emotions invested with our loved ones as our feelings are more involved & as we are more easily apt to be bruised... we become more vulnerable! It is part of loving someone! But contrition & forgiveness can also lead to a better relationship if the love is strong! Trust has to be earned! We all have such lessons to learn! There are three parts to saying sorry & admittance alone is not enough... 1) Say you are sorry 2) Promise never to do it again 3) Make amends!!! Kisses & a very big hug to in my faraway eyes... A great guy!  GemStripteasing The Mind
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3/8/2012 9:59 pm |
That is a question I have always wondered myself.........
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3/23/2012 9:58 pm |
Hugs, sorry I've not been around lately. Looks like I've got some catching up to do. However the ones we are the closest to are our often our greatest teachers in life. Sometimes we get hurt and sometimes we do the hurting, but regardless we are always learning and growing and so are they. I hope you are OK my friend. I've missed you, and I promise not to stay away so long now. Hugs and Kisses
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4/11/2012 11:40 am |
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4/21/2012 6:05 pm |
no answers for you, who knows anything about anything... thought of you often handsum 
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4/22/2012 2:13 am |
because we're stupid. ~neo
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